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First date: the Dos and the Donts

Welcome back Hawks!
Dorms are full, classes are in full swing and it is time to get out there and meet new people. Whether you meet someone in one of your classes or on a dating app, the nerves of a first date are bound to go happen. Here are some of my tips on the Dos and Donts of a first date!

– Have a positive approach.
You may have had bad first dates in the past but don’t let that get you down. First dates are all about new beginnings so don’t go into it with a negative attitude.

– Remember your date is probably just as nervous as you are.
Your date may come off completely confident which could be intimidating but don’t forget that they are in the same position that you are. Have fun together and the nerves will quickly diminish.

– Be yourself.
If you are weird, be weird on the first date. If they don’t like you for you then they are not worth your time. You don’t want to create a fake personality that panders to your date’s interests. The best way to start a new a relationship is by being yourself and letting your date know the real you.

– Compare your date to a past date or an ex.
Like I mentioned above, this is about new beginnings so leave the past in the past. You definitely do not want to talk about your ex to your date. This makes it seem like you are not past the relationship or will be comparing everything your date does to your ex.

– Focus the whole date on yourself.
A first date is all about getting to know the other person and seeing if you two are a good match. You do not want to keep talking about yourself for the majority of the date. Ask them questions and if you are not good at thinking of questions on the spot, prepare for the date by looking up some interesting questions to ask.

– Expect sex.
You do not want to go into a first date expecting to end the night in bed. Don’t get me wrong, it is totally acceptable to sleep together on the first date if it is what you both want but it will get very awkward very fast if you make an unwanted move on the first date.