Ask Bella: Boyfriendless

How to own the single life and work your independence

Dear Bella: All my friends have boyfriends and I don’t. It used to not bother me, but I’ve started to feel really lonely and I don’t know what to do. Whenever my friends ask me to hang out, it automatically means them, me, and their significant other.

I don’t want to tell them that they can’t bring their boyfriend with them, but I really just want to spend some time with my friends. When I bring it up to them, they just say they’ll try and find me someone, but I don’t think anyone will ever like me. What should I do?

Boyfriendless: How you’re feeling is totally normal. It’s okay to feel lonely, that’s a normal human instinct. It’s also okay that you just want to hang out with your friends. Keep vocalizing that to them, and be honest with why you want alone time. You know what they say, chicks before d*cks.

Now, onto the topic of finding a boyfriend—I know that it may seem like you’ll never find anyone, but I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone. That includes you!

However, it’s hard to find someone if you’re actively looking. You’ll constantly be judging everyone you meet and subconsciously creating a rating of who’s worth it and who isn’t.

Focus on you. Live for you and do what makes you happy. The right person will come around when you least expect it, and trust me, they’ll fit all your requirements.

However, being single in college is okay! You get to experience being independent and you learn how to take care of yourself. Having a boyfriend is nice, but trusting yourself and knowing how to take care of yourself is even better.

No one is alone forever, and your Mr. Perfect is out there somewhere! So keep asking your friends to hang out, be honest with them, and live for yourself. You got this!