Racy Stacy: Seven sex tips for freshmen

Racy Stacy, Herald Reporter|September 20, 2018

SEVEN SEX TIPS FOR FRESHMEN

 

Disclaimer: The topics discussed in this column may be sensitive. If you are not comfortable reading about sexual subject matter, I advise you to skip this column.

 

Welcome back, Hawks!

 

I hope you all had a fantastic summer. To those returning, welcome back! This column, however, is directed toward our new friends on campus: the freshmen.

 

Adjusting to college life can be extremely difficult (I know, I’ve done it). There are a million things to think about: doing well in class, getting along with your roommate and adjusting to the new responsibilities you have are just a few. Along with this new responsibility comes something that many of us did not have until college — freedom.

 

It is up to us to decide to go to class, when/what we eat, which party to go to on the weekends… and who we have sex with. Today, I want to share some sex tips with you all that I have learned through my own personal experiences, and some of my friends, as well.

  1. Use a condom, and always have one on you.

Ladies, this goes for you too. Don’t rely on the guy to have the condoms all the time. It’s always a good idea to have a couple on you (more than one in case one breaks). I’ll be the first one to admit that I don’t particularly like using condoms, but if you’re having sex with someone and you don’t know their history or the last time they were tested, it’s definitely a good idea.  

 

  1. Don’t do it drunk.

This is self explanatory. Drunk sex rarely works out well for either party. Guys either can’t get it up or they last way too long and it isn’t enjoyable. Girls have a harder time getting wet when drunk so it can be painful, too. Save yourself the bad sex and do it sober.

  1. Only do it if you WANT TO

When you’re a freshman, there can be some pressure to look “cool” in front of your new friends. There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin in college, and there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex. A super important part of college is doing your own thing and discovering who you are.

 

  1. Communication with the person is key.
    If you’re having sex with someone or are about to have sex with someone and you feel uncomfortable at all, let the person know. Make sure it is consensual. If you’re getting the idea that the other person isn’t into it, back off and ask if they still want to have sex.
    Saying “no” means no, and saying nothing also means no. If the person seems uncomfortable at all, its a no-go.

  2. Be careful who you’re hooking up with in your friend group.
    Hooking up with friends can be a sticky situation because if something were to happen and it didn’t work out in the end, it can create tension in the friend group. Obviously, if you’re feeling the vibe and think there’s a real connection between you two, then go for it. If it’s just a hookup situation and you think a problem may arise in the future, it may be a good idea to stay away from it.

  3. Set ground rules with the person.
    If you are consistently hooking up with the same person, establish what you want the “relationship” to be so there’s no confusion.

  4. Have a sex protocol with your roommate(s).
    If you know you’re going to be having sex with someone later, give your roommate a heads up. My freshman year, we kept a community door sign in the common area that we used whenever one of us was in the room with someone. It was a simple yet effective way to make sure no one busted in when it was going down.